Du5t1n

 I wasn't until you came along.
 
 
 
Graduated college (Computer Engineering), friends came and went, got a good job & created a multi-million dollar piece of software (working for a company of course so I only got a small fraction of that pie) at an amazingly fun company (for a while I described it to friends as like the hyrule.net chat; yeah, it's was intense and crazy!), went on work trips around the country, went to SXSW, met famous tech people such as people from Google, Dropbox.com, Static.com, hung out with some guys that host ebay.com, etc.  Now I work from home a lot, got a house & put in security cameras all around it to keep shady people away, partook of grass in vast quantities for a while, made a weather website http://precipitationstation.com/ , explored around walking 30+ miles in search of a cave -- when my friend and I were just about to give up we sat down to rest and saw something weird in the distance: the cave! As soon as we exited the cave I encountered a rock slide then immediately upset a bee nest and got stung and ran for my life ... I spent much of my younger years hanging out mostly on Hyrule.net so I kind of binged in experiencing the "real" world.  After sampling both, I feel that I got to know people in a 'real' way more online as people are more free to be themselves.  I greatly enjoyed those special moments when I really got to know people really well in person as well though.  I wish I could take my online relationships and port them into real life hanging out.  Going on adventures is super fun.  I discovered I enjoy hiking around exploring, much like Link.  I enjoy it most friend friends though.  Currently none of my IRL friends enjoy outdoors though unfortunately which is a shame. I need to find some people that like that stuff since Spring is almost here!  So yeah, nothing too extravagant, at least to me. Living the dream I suppose.

Sometimes

Sometimes I just have to show off my neck powers

 
Made as my FB picture mostly for the creepin' Yuri Petrov in the corner.

good now give all your rupees to SAHAQIEL
 

 
made especially for the cause

There are a lot of new faces.  I've been on the chat a lot more. Less on the forum but some.  Hyrule has always had a place in my heart and and also some in the x-rated hidden corners of my mind.  Some of you know what I'm talking about.  Good times...

Serious question: What is your favourite colour?
 
Someone's gotta ask the small-talk stuff everyone hates eventually. ;x

wut wut in the butt.
 
Zeldanig, you may not have intended to be offensive with your name but some people obviously are going to take offense.  It would be pretty cool if "nigger" or similarities were not associated with the negativity and hate that came to be associated with them.  Sadly we do not live in this world because assholes like to use words to convey an idea of hatred and spreading of pain.  The word isn't the problem, it's the ideas that have been tied to them.  This is very unfortunate but that is our inheritence from our shitty forefathers.  We need to keep that in mind with what we do now as we will be leaving things for the young people of the future such as yourself and your kids some day.  Be cool.  Please just relax and pick another cool name that you feel at home with. Even if you disagree with Saha I hope you can see that he has good intentions and really cares about this place and is trying to do his best to keep this a good place.
 
Keep Calm and Carry On

wut wut in the butt.
 
Zeldanig, you may not have intended to be offensive with your name but some people obviously are going to take offense.  It would be pretty cool if "nigger" or similarities were not associated with the negativity and hate that came to be associated with them.  Sadly we do not live in this world because assholes like to use words to convey an idea of hatred and spreading of pain.  The word isn't the problem, it's the ideas that have been tied to them.  This is very unfortunate but that is our inheritence from our shitty forefathers.  We need to keep that in mind with what we do now as we will be leaving things for the young people of the future such as yourself and your kids some day.  Be cool.  Please just relax and pick another cool name that you feel at home with. Even if you disagree with Saha I hope you can see that he has good intentions and really cares about this place and is trying to do his best to keep this a good place.
 
Keep Calm and Carry On

wut wut in the butt.
 
Zeldanig, you may not have intended to be offensive with your name but some people obviously are going to take offense.  It would be pretty cool if "nigger" or similarities were not associated with the negativity and hate that came to be associated with them.  Sadly we do not live in this world because assholes like to use words to convey an idea of hatred and spreading of pain.  The word isn't the problem, it's the ideas that have been tied to them.  This is very unfortunate but that is our inheritence from our shitty forefathers.  We need to keep that in mind with what we do now as we will be leaving things for the young people of the future such as yourself and your kids some day.  Be cool.  Please just relax and pick another cool name that you feel at home with. Even if you disagree with Saha I hope you can see that he has good intentions and really cares about this place and is trying to do his best to keep this a good place.
 
Keep Calm and Carry On

wut wut in the butt.
 
Zeldanig, you may not have intended to be offensive with your name but some people obviously are going to take offense.  It would be pretty cool if "nigger" or similarities were not associated with the negativity and hate that came to be associated with them.  Sadly we do not live in this world because assholes like to use words to convey an idea of hatred and spreading of pain.  The word isn't the problem, it's the ideas that have been tied to them.  This is very unfortunate but that is our inheritence from our shitty forefathers.  We need to keep that in mind with what we do now as we will be leaving things for the young people of the future such as yourself and your kids some day.  Be cool.  Please just relax and pick another cool name that you feel at home with. Even if you disagree with Saha I hope you can see that he has good intentions and really cares about this place and is trying to do his best to keep this a good place.
 
Keep Calm and Carry On

I hung out in a zelda chatroom and unmentionable things occurred.

Further and further but never away,
once near my heart forever you'll stay.

Further and further but never away,
once near my heart forever you'll stay.

I hung out in a zelda chatroom and unmentionable things occurred.

It seems there are two extreme views on rape jokes:
1) Rape jokes are funny!
2) Rape jokes are pure evil!
 
The fact is that it's not that simple... From my experiences when a rape joke is being told it's not intended to hurt anyone nor to try and justify rape.  It's typically because the person telling the joke does not have a clear concept of what rape is or how bad it is (or choose not to).  A kid telling a rape joke does not fully understand what rape means or how said joke could bother someone because to them, rape is just some concept that is foreign to them.  There is an innocence of sorts -- the word "rape" means something different to someone who has never experiences it directly nor indirectly.
 
Now older people tend to have formed a clearer perception of what rape is as some of them have been raped or know people that have been raped.  This changes their perception to see the damaging evils of it. This makes them despise rape jokes and provokes an emotion response of anger or disgust upon hearing it. The veil has been lifted and the person sees the realness of rape and no longer can get the humor that came with the ignorance and innocence.
 
I feel like I'm kind of in an odd area in my experience in life so I'm able to 'understand' where both side is coming from, and I think neither side of telling a rape joke nor hating rape jokes is evil -- to an extent. There can be side effects that someone telling a rape joke upsets someone on the opposite end of the spectrum and that's a problem of course, but that doesn't mean the person telling the joke is evil.  The word and 'idea' of rape has a different definition to them.
 
Here's why I feel like I'm in a different perspective:
I know rape hurts people and can really impact and damage people.  On the other hand, I've never experienced it nor known anyone that has gone through it (that I know of at least; there may very well be).  To me rape is an abstract concept.  I have a hard time imaging it truly happening.  It doesn't fit my world view well because I'd never do it and I can't imagine anyone doing it.  BUT, I know it does happen, so I choose not to be a part of rape jokes.  This gives me an insight though -- it allows me to understand why someone can tell a rape joke and not mean harm and not be an evil terrible person.  It's because they don't truly understand rape.  They can't until they experience it, know someone that did, or are educated  about it enough and why it's damaging to personally understand why it's such a real and terrible thing.
 
I think this very much applies to much of life though.  We are all quick to judge others and label them and things as 'good' or 'evil'.  Life isn't black and white though.  It's grey and everyone has different experiences and knowledge and life. The proper solution to all of this is education and sharing what you know; if you're on the other side and don't understand why someone is how it is, ask questions. I know asking why is hard as everyone pretends like they already know everything, but the truth of it is that we are all faking it -- we all have huge holes of knowledge but we pretend like we don't so we don't come across as foolish -- but it's better to ask questions and learn and gain wisdom in the process.  Someone tells a rape joke and it bothers you?  Telling them they are a piece of shit and evil won't help anything.  But explaining to them WHY it is harmful or hurts you goes much further.  People don't know what they don't know.  Trying to shame someone for doing something they didn't mean to be harmful in doing doesn't fix the problem.  Tell a joke or say something and it offends someone, try to talk to them and understand why that is the case.  On the other side though you need to be open to discussion and explaining yourself without anger or emotion as best you can.
 
This is a bit of a ramble but I just wanted to throw that out there... Just everyone please don't be so quick to judge and also try to be sensitive to others and things that hurt them even if you don't quite 'get' why -- ask questions. Ezlo obviously didn't mean to hurt anyone or be a jerk. It can be hard but one of the greatest social skills you can hone is that of empathy and placing yourself in someone else's shoes, hard as that might be.

It seems there are two extreme views on rape jokes:
1) Rape jokes are funny!
2) Rape jokes are pure evil!
 
The fact is that it's not that simple... From my experiences when a rape joke is being told it's not intended to hurt anyone nor to try and justify rape.  It's typically because the person telling the joke does not have a clear concept of what rape is or how bad it is (or choose not to).  A kid telling a rape joke does not fully understand what rape means or how said joke could bother someone because to them, rape is just some concept that is foreign to them.  There is an innocence of sorts -- the word "rape" means something different to someone who has never experiences it directly nor indirectly.
 
Now older people tend to have formed a clearer perception of what rape is as some of them have been raped or know people that have been raped.  This changes their perception to see the damaging evils of it. This makes them despise rape jokes and provokes an emotion response of anger or disgust upon hearing it. The veil has been lifted and the person sees the realness of rape and no longer can get the humor that came with the ignorance and innocence.
 
I feel like I'm kind of in an odd area in my experience in life so I'm able to 'understand' where both side is coming from, and I think neither side of telling a rape joke nor hating rape jokes is evil -- to an extent. There can be side effects that someone telling a rape joke upsets someone on the opposite end of the spectrum and that's a problem of course, but that doesn't mean the person telling the joke is evil.  The word and 'idea' of rape has a different definition to them.
 
Here's why I feel like I'm in a different perspective:
I know rape hurts people and can really impact and damage people.  On the other hand, I've never experienced it nor known anyone that has gone through it (that I know of at least; there may very well be).  To me rape is an abstract concept.  I have a hard time imaging it truly happening.  It doesn't fit my world view well because I'd never do it and I can't imagine anyone doing it.  BUT, I know it does happen, so I choose not to be a part of rape jokes.  This gives me an insight though -- it allows me to understand why someone can tell a rape joke and not mean harm and not be an evil terrible person.  It's because they don't truly understand rape.  They can't until they experience it, know someone that did, or are educated  about it enough and why it's damaging to personally understand why it's such a real and terrible thing.
 
I think this very much applies to much of life though.  We are all quick to judge others and label them and things as 'good' or 'evil'.  Life isn't black and white though.  It's grey and everyone has different experiences and knowledge and life. The proper solution to all of this is education and sharing what you know; if you're on the other side and don't understand why someone is how it is, ask questions. I know asking why is hard as everyone pretends like they already know everything, but the truth of it is that we are all faking it -- we all have huge holes of knowledge but we pretend like we don't so we don't come across as foolish -- but it's better to ask questions and learn and gain wisdom in the process.  Someone tells a rape joke and it bothers you?  Telling them they are a piece of shit and evil won't help anything.  But explaining to them WHY it is harmful or hurts you goes much further.  People don't know what they don't know.  Trying to shame someone for doing something they didn't mean to be harmful in doing doesn't fix the problem.  Tell a joke or say something and it offends someone, try to talk to them and understand why that is the case.  On the other side though you need to be open to discussion and explaining yourself without anger or emotion as best you can.
 
This is a bit of a ramble but I just wanted to throw that out there... Just everyone please don't be so quick to judge and also try to be sensitive to others and things that hurt them even if you don't quite 'get' why -- ask questions. Ezlo obviously didn't mean to hurt anyone or be a jerk. It can be hard but one of the greatest social skills you can hone is that of empathy and placing yourself in someone else's shoes, hard as that might be.

I think that while there are varying degrees of bullying -- it all does damage.  Even the small bullying like calling someone pork chop can utterly shape and change a person's life.  We know brains are very plastic and a little kid can completely change their way of thinking and acting to avoid being full-on bullied, beaten, and stabbed with knives to being teased with silly names.  They all shape the victim's mind and change their behavior and thinking.  Remember that children do not have the mental skills to know how to cope and most children do not have positive open communication with loving adults in their lives to help them through problems.  I'm sure most people can remember something that hurt them as a kid but they were too embarrassed to tell someone or seek help with coping, even if only a hug.
 
"If your self-esteem is so low that you allow others to shape your personality and shape your emotions...that's rough." - Chase
I agree that is indeed a huge part of the problem but as these are children that we are talking abou they aren't self-aware, don't understand what self-esteem means or the importance of it, and their self-esteem is literally in the process of forming and this is what gets included in their worldview when building said self-esteem.   If that initial building of it is damaged and then the words / bullying / whatever continue for years then it can reinforce the negative self-view and really screw with people.  Even people that cope or 'get over' it have hidden scars beneath.  Those are often our insecurities, our weaknesses inside that we keep hidden from view.  All humans have them.  Anyone that thinks they don't has just been able to lie to themselves, but it's there somewhere.  Perhaps we could better help kids form a positive self esteem earlier to help ward off these problems because like Chase said if they have a good self esteem they can cope with these situations much better.
 
Even if someone gets over being called something like "pork chop" and it doesn't influence their life anymore, I think it's short-sighted to think that he should not dislike the term anymore.  He may not freak out or even show a response hearing the term now but it certainly may bring back memories of that time which are very negative.  None of us really like to dwell on being hurt, at least not long-term, especially when it's something you know was said by dump kids that didn't know any better.  Many people "deal" with issues like this by cutting off the memories associated with words or terms -- they try to forget or numb the experience.  That's a way of coping but it's not necessarily any more healthy than remembering the pain but realizing and truly understanding that the kids didn't know the damage they were doing -- but as a kid you didn't know that so the memories and pain felt then were still very real.  ..and if he didn't remember the pain those words brought then he likely wouldn't be able to bring us this video in such a powerful way.
 
And importantly, all of us here wouldn't find so much in this video if we too didn't remember past pain and what it meant to us at the time but that doesn't mean that we haven't healed or "coped".  But that does not mean the scars don't remain, just like a wound on the skin.  It has healed, but it leaves its mark.
 
I am very much an atheist but I do quite enjoy Jesus' saying "father forgive them for they know not what they do" as I believe it sums up pretty much all hurtful human interactions.  Humans are short-sighted and many have shit empathy skills so they don't understand WHY something they say hurts someone, even if it's only a joke.  We all have weak spots, insecurities, etc and when teasing hits them, it reinforces them in the mind, even subconsciously.  "Neurons that fire together wire together".  Our brain learns from our environment and if as a kid you get teased a lot, your brain shapes its world view to include that.
 
Even self esteem itself is complicated -- too much self esteem results in a person feeling like they are so badass awesome that they become arrogant dicks.  Humans, our mental well being, and the complexity of psychology, our subconscious, and the effect of experiences on the way our brain functions and is literally physically laid out (our brain LITERALLY physically changes with ever experiences -- new connections are made, connections are severed, or altered), are crazy complicated and there is still much we don't know.  But we do know that these things hurt and we know can many times have negative effects on people. We live in a society and culture where these things happen and breaking the cycle is not something we know how to do yet.
 
We have a long way to go as a species.  We are still young.
 
Just my thoughts....

  you are a considerate experiencer.
   

http://www.upworthy.com/bullies-called-him-pork-chop-he-took-that-pain-with-him-and-then-cooked-it-into?g=3

Further and further but never away,
once near my heart forever you'll stay.

Further and further but never away,
once near my heart forever you'll stay.

I think that while there are varying degrees of bullying -- it all does damage.  Even the small bullying like calling someone pork chop can utterly shape and change a person's life.  We know brains are very plastic and a little kid can completely change their way of thinking and acting to avoid being full-on bullied, beaten, and stabbed with knives to being teased with silly names.  They all shape the victim's mind and change their behavior and thinking.  Remember that children do not have the mental skills to know how to cope and most children do not have positive open communication with loving adults in their lives to help them through problems.  I'm sure most people can remember something that hurt them as a kid but they were too embarrassed to tell someone or seek help with coping, even if only a hug.
 
"If your self-esteem is so low that you allow others to shape your personality and shape your emotions...that's rough." - Chase
I agree that is indeed a huge part of the problem but as these are children that we are talking abou they aren't self-aware, don't understand what self-esteem means or the importance of it, and their self-esteem is literally in the process of forming and this is what gets included in their worldview when building said self-esteem.   If that initial building of it is damaged and then the words / bullying / whatever continue for years then it can reinforce the negative self-view and really screw with people.  Even people that cope or 'get over' it have hidden scars beneath.  Those are often our insecurities, our weaknesses inside that we keep hidden from view.  All humans have them.  Anyone that thinks they don't has just been able to lie to themselves, but it's there somewhere.  Perhaps we could better help kids form a positive self esteem earlier to help ward off these problems because like Chase said if they have a good self esteem they can cope with these situations much better.
 
Even if someone gets over being called something like "pork chop" and it doesn't influence their life anymore, I think it's short-sighted to think that he should not dislike the term anymore.  He may not freak out or even show a response hearing the term now but it certainly may bring back memories of that time which are very negative.  None of us really like to dwell on being hurt, at least not long-term, especially when it's something you know was said by dump kids that didn't know any better.  Many people "deal" with issues like this by cutting off the memories associated with words or terms -- they try to forget or numb the experience.  That's a way of coping but it's not necessarily any more healthy than remembering the pain but realizing and truly understanding that the kids didn't know the damage they were doing -- but as a kid you didn't know that so the memories and pain felt then were still very real.  ..and if he didn't remember the pain those words brought then he likely wouldn't be able to bring us this video in such a powerful way.
 
And importantly, all of us here wouldn't find so much in this video if we too didn't remember past pain and what it meant to us at the time but that doesn't mean that we haven't healed or "coped".  But that does not mean the scars don't remain, just like a wound on the skin.  It has healed, but it leaves its mark.
 
I am very much an atheist but I do quite enjoy Jesus' saying "father forgive them for they know not what they do" as I believe it sums up pretty much all hurtful human interactions.  Humans are short-sighted and many have shit empathy skills so they don't understand WHY something they say hurts someone, even if it's only a joke.  We all have weak spots, insecurities, etc and when teasing hits them, it reinforces them in the mind, even subconsciously.  "Neurons that fire together wire together".  Our brain learns from our environment and if as a kid you get teased a lot, your brain shapes its world view to include that.
 
Even self esteem itself is complicated -- too much self esteem results in a person feeling like they are so badass awesome that they become arrogant dicks.  Humans, our mental well being, and the complexity of psychology, our subconscious, and the effect of experiences on the way our brain functions and is literally physically laid out (our brain LITERALLY physically changes with ever experiences -- new connections are made, connections are severed, or altered), are crazy complicated and there is still much we don't know.  But we do know that these things hurt and we know can many times have negative effects on people. We live in a society and culture where these things happen and breaking the cycle is not something we know how to do yet.
 
We have a long way to go as a species.  We are still young.
 
Just my thoughts....

I think that while there are varying degrees of bullying -- it all does damage.  Even the small bullying like calling someone pork chop can utterly shape and change a person's life.  We know brains are very plastic and a little kid can completely change their way of thinking and acting to avoid being full-on bullied, beaten, and stabbed with knives to being teased with silly names.  They all shape the victim's mind and change their behavior and thinking.  Remember that children do not have the mental skills to know how to cope and most children do not have positive open communication with loving adults in their lives to help them through problems.  I'm sure most people can remember something that hurt them as a kid but they were too embarrassed to tell someone or seek help with coping, even if only a hug.
 
"If your self-esteem is so low that you allow others to shape your personality and shape your emotions...that's rough." - Chase
I agree that is indeed a huge part of the problem but as these are children that we are talking abou they aren't self-aware, don't understand what self-esteem means or the importance of it, and their self-esteem is literally in the process of forming and this is what gets included in their worldview when building said self-esteem.   If that initial building of it is damaged and then the words / bullying / whatever continue for years then it can reinforce the negative self-view and really screw with people.  Even people that cope or 'get over' it have hidden scars beneath.  Those are often our insecurities, our weaknesses inside that we keep hidden from view.  All humans have them.  Anyone that thinks they don't has just been able to lie to themselves, but it's there somewhere.  Perhaps we could better help kids form a positive self esteem earlier to help ward off these problems because like Chase said if they have a good self esteem they can cope with these situations much better.
 
Even if someone gets over being called something like "pork chop" and it doesn't influence their life anymore, I think it's short-sighted to think that he should not dislike the term anymore.  He may not freak out or even show a response hearing the term now but it certainly may bring back memories of that time which are very negative.  None of us really like to dwell on being hurt, at least not long-term, especially when it's something you know was said by dump kids that didn't know any better.  Many people "deal" with issues like this by cutting off the memories associated with words or terms -- they try to forget or numb the experience.  That's a way of coping but it's not necessarily any more healthy than remembering the pain but realizing and truly understanding that the kids didn't know the damage they were doing -- but as a kid you didn't know that so the memories and pain felt then were still very real.  ..and if he didn't remember the pain those words brought then he likely wouldn't be able to bring us this video in such a powerful way.
 
And importantly, all of us here wouldn't find so much in this video if we too didn't remember past pain and what it meant to us at the time but that doesn't mean that we haven't healed or "coped".  But that does not mean the scars don't remain, just like a wound on the skin.  It has healed, but it leaves its mark.
 
I am very much an atheist but I do quite enjoy Jesus' saying "father forgive them for they know not what they do" as I believe it sums up pretty much all hurtful human interactions.  Humans are short-sighted and many have shit empathy skills so they don't understand WHY something they say hurts someone, even if it's only a joke.  We all have weak spots, insecurities, etc and when teasing hits them, it reinforces them in the mind, even subconsciously.  "Neurons that fire together wire together".  Our brain learns from our environment and if as a kid you get teased a lot, your brain shapes its world view to include that.
 
Even self esteem itself is complicated -- too much self esteem results in a person feeling like they are so badass awesome that they become arrogant dicks.  Humans, our mental well being, and the complexity of psychology, our subconscious, and the effect of experiences on the way our brain functions and is literally physically laid out (our brain LITERALLY physically changes with ever experiences -- new connections are made, connections are severed, or altered), are crazy complicated and there is still much we don't know.  But we do know that these things hurt and we know can many times have negative effects on people. We live in a society and culture where these things happen and breaking the cycle is not something we know how to do yet.
 
We have a long way to go as a species.  We are still young.
 
Just my thoughts....

Further and further but never away,
once near my heart forever you'll stay.